You can should on yourself all day…but that won’t get you anywhere.
Trying To Be Good At Life…
You can should on yourself all day…but that won’t get you anywhere.
How happy are you?
How much has your company grossed this quarter?
Which question is more important to you? If you are more concerned about the latter, then one suspects the answer to the former is not going to be very positive.
With this in mind, I was delighted to hear the Bhutanese have introduced a Minister for Happiness.
This Himalayan kingdom has a new measurement of national prosperity too – “gross national happiness”. By focussing on people’s well-being rather than economic productivity, there is likely to be a knock-on effect for business too. After all, a happy workforce makes for a more successful and productive team.
Success and money can contribute to happiness, but happiness itself is another thing altogether. Words like ‘family’, ‘friends’, ‘love’ and ‘laughter’ have a lot more to do with happiness than words like ‘gross’, ‘capital’ and ‘revenue’.
Money is a by-product of bigger, more meaningful goals such as passion, fun and wisdom. As I’ve said before, have fun, do good, and the money will come.
Perhaps we could learn a thing or two from the Bhutanese and their Minister for Happiness. What other measurements for success are important to you?
A dream without action is just that…a dream.
But…a dream with an actionable plan…becomes a future reality.
Our true physical needs are food, water, clothing, and shelter. We might also want to add human contact to that list. Anything else we call a need is, in reality, something we want or desire. We tell ourselves that if we don’t get these “needs” met, we will experience unhappiness in some form, such as disappointment, frustration, resentment, or anger.
Dunn, Joe; Apple, Mali (2011-04-26). The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships (pp. 8-9). A Higher Possibility. Kindle Edition.
Understand that there is never one “right” version of what happens and that each person’s perspective on any event is what is true for them. Approach life with a ‘spirit of discovery’, be open to whatever shows up, look for hidden gifts and seek a higher possibility.
-I wrote this to a friend of mine, and thought I’d share it with rest of the world-
Congratulations on a great accomplishment and welcome to a new era of your life. You have checked off the first of two steps our culture adheres to…go to college, get a degree so you can get a “good” job. May I offer some advice on the second part?
Don’t look for a job, look for an opportunity. Don’t think of what you can get from a “job” but who you can become through the opportunity.
You are embarking on a new journey. You will either achieve your dreams and aspirations in life or you will look back with pain and regret. I hope to shed some light on how to accomplish the former; as there is no in between. You are either growing or dying; winning or losing.
Most will advise you to look for a job with a high paying salary and good benefits. Some might even suggest a nice company job where you get paid to come in late and leave early. I would suggest you look for a mentor and a pay scale based on what you produce. Benefits are nice, but commissions are better. You see, people make money based on how much value they bring to the market place; therefore, if you take a salaried position, your pay grade is based on what the position is worth, not what you, as an individual, are worth.
The “Secrets” To Success
Yeah, there are lots of tips and tricks to success. Volumes and volumes of books and thousands of pages have been written about the topic. And while I’m not discounting those thousands of pages, I’ve always reflected on these few tips to help me get to where I’ve always wanted to be…on the road less traveled.
“Formal education will make you a living, but self-education will make you wealthy.” ~Jim Rohn
You’ve covered the formal education part, let’s look at starting your self-education part.
“The person you are five years from now will depend on ONLY three things: the people you associate with, the mentors you learn under, and the books you read.” That’s the only three things you need to concern yourself with.
I would recommend starting with the book Rich Dad Poor Dad. This book has had a very profound impact on my life and the way I see the world. Beware though, this book teaches you a completely different thought process then what you’ve been brought up with…which brings me to my next point…
“To become successful, watch what everyone else does, and do the opposite.” ~Mike Waechter
It’s safe to say most people you know don’t read. So let’s start with that. Most everyone doesn’t read books, so to be successful, pick up a book.
Another book you might start with is: How I Raised Myself From Failure To Success in Selling. There’s only one way to become successful in life, and that is to learn how to work with others. This simple book is the best I’ve ever read on this topic.
This brings me to my last point… and this is the most difficult point of all.
“Winners Take Action.” ~Tom Pace
It’s easy to read books and have mentors, but where most people fail is the action part. Most people fail because they fear the unknown. Unfortunately, the ONLY way to conquer fear is with ACTION.
The best way to conquer fear is to just do something, anything and I promise you will get a result. And getting a result, negative or positive, will always lead you somewhere further down the road less traveled…the road you truly desire to be on.
There are literally hundreds of success strategies to learn about and follow. But if you follow your heart, have faith and let these simple concepts become the core of your development, all the little things in life will fall perfectly into place at the perfect, exact time you need them.
At least this is the way it has worked for me.
A few weeks ago I went on a cruise with two friends…bachelor party actually…my idea…brilliant!
It was a short cruise and the only island we stopped on was Cozumel. I’ve never been to Cozumel so I was pretty excited. I didn’t sign up for any tours or organized gathering like sailing with a bunch of people. Nothing against that but I’m more of a do what I want guy…
So me and my friends rented little mopeds and took off for the ancient ruins…after about 20 minutes of going in circles, the island boy had to get to the beach. So after my buds told me they didn’t mind if I left the pack, I headed west…I think.
It was pure freedom driving the moped around the island. No rules, no hustle and bustle, there was a speed limit, but no cops all over your ass about it…
I found a beach, parked the moped and headed to the water. While walking down the beach, one mexican gentlemen asked me if I wanted to rent a seadoo…sounded fun so I did.
When I got off the seadoo, they asked me if I wanted to go snorkeling. Sounded fun so I jumped on a boat with 3 strangers from Texas and we took off. I got some fantastic pics and 3 new friends.
When I got off the boat, they asked me if I wanted a massage on the beach…sounded good to me!
After that, it was time to head back to the boat. I made a few more detours, returned my moped and made my way back to the boat…
It was nearly a perfect day. I guess what this post is about is just having fun, taking chances, and saying YES!
The tremendous leisure industry that has arisen in the last few generations has been designed to help fill free time with enjoyable experiences. Nevertheless, instead of using our physical and mental resources to experience flow, most of us spend many hours each week watching celebrated athletes playing in enormous stadiums. instead of making music, we listen to platinum records cut by millionaire musicians. Instead of making art, we go to admire paintings that brought in the highest bids at the latest auction. We do not run risks acting on our beliefs, but occupy hours each day watching actors who pretend to have adventures, engaged in mock-meaningful action.
This vicarious participation is able to mask, at least temporarily, the underlying emptiness of wasted time. But it is a very pale substitute for attention invested in real challenges. The flow experience that results from the use of skills leads to growth; passive entertainment leads nowhere. Collectively we are wasting each year the equivalent of millions of years of human consciousness. The energy that could be used to focus on complex goals, to provide for enjoyable growth, is squandered on patters of stimulation that only mimic reality. Mass leisure, mass culture, and even high culture when only attended to passively and for extrinsic reasons-such as the wish to flaunt one’s status-are parasites of the mind. They absorb psychic energy without providing substantive strength in return. They leave us more exhausted, more disheartened than we were before.
Unless a person takes charge of them, both work and free time are likely to be disappointing. Most jobs and many leisure activities-especially those involving the passive consumption of mass media-are not designed to make us happy and strong. Their purpose is to make money for someone else. If we allow them to, they can suck out the marrow of our lives, leaving only feeble husks. But like everything else, work and leisure can be appropriated for our needs. People who learn to enjoy their work, who do not waste their free time, end up feeling that their lives as a whole have become much more worthwhile. “The future,” wrote C.K. Brightbill, “will belong not only to the educated man, but to the man who is educated to use his leisure wisely.”
You’ve heard the saying Karma’s a bitch, but is it really?
First lets make a simply definition of Karma…
You get what you give…there…simple.
Here’s a story:
About 3 weeks ago I went to the Half Price Books Store to sell some books. I have a huge library and was tired of moving it all the time.
Side note: What I learned that day was to stop buying books at retail prices…always buy them on the cheap! That way when you go to sell them or trade them in, you won’t be pissed off about all the money you lost on them.
Back to story:
I had to wait about 30 minutes for the customer service rep to sort through my books so I wondered around the book store.
Actually you’re not allowed to leave the book store while they’re going through your books – good marketing tactic on their end…wasted 30 minutes of my day though 🙂
During my wondering around I stumbled into the investing/finance portion of the store. The is about the only place I spend my time in a book store.
I wasn’t going to buy anything because I didn’t want them to “get me”
But I was curious to see what they carried. I went to look for a book I just purchased (at full retail) to see how much I could have saved if I would have bought it from them…
The book was called: Rich Dad’s Guide To Investing in Gold and Silver.
They DID NOT have the book.
So no big deal…I didn’t spend any money.
Let’s fast forward 3 weeks now. I took a trip to Vegas. When I arrived in Vegas…I was getting off the plane and realized I had just left my book (Rich Dad’s Guide To Investing in Gold and Silver) on the plane.
I had just gotten out of the little walk way area…
So my first thought was: Go back and get it…people are still getting off the plane so you’ll still be able to get on and get your book.
Then, my second thought was: Nope, that must have happened for a reason…someone needs that book so leave it there.
And that’s what I did.
I got back from my trip and decided to go back to the half price book store to pick up another Robert Kiyosaki book.
But when I was browsing around, there was actually the same book there that I left on the plane. Remember a few weeks ago that book wasn’t there…and now it was.
My face lit up when I realized what had just happened…seemed like Karma to me!
So is Karma a bitch?
…Only if you make it one.
This video is about one of my mentors. His daughter made this track for his some time ago. They have put her track over video and some music. This is pretty cool…really motivating if you listen to your daughter say this about you every morning.